Well, having been advised since starting the thread to get more modern skis, I have. Was lucky, someone near me advertised 2003 Crossmax 9 Pilot 170s for a nominal 'take it away' price. They could have got a fair bit more on ebay, but offering them this way was a nice thing to do, and I am grateful

The one thing I have done to earn this good luck is spend way too much time looking for skis on ebay etc.
Yes I have done about 150 hours in odd afternoons, this is my third year. Spreading the ski time out helps, as I would be exhausted by a week of full ski days. Maybe will get a lesson or two.
Lessons from good skiing friends I know are not the same, though they do help. At the start it is nice to have someone who takes a lot of responsibility for safety. GF still does to some extent, I only saw her fall once, recently when she was checking whether the powder on the side of the piste was within my ability. Answer, 'no.'