Wow! That's the last time I write what I thought was a straight forward question on a forum and not look at it again for a couple of days!
I don't feel quite so bad that we are having such a tough time deciding what to do about lessons judging by the divided opinions on this topic.
Annoyingly though we can understand and even agree with both sides on some points which makes our decision even more frustrating to make
Still got two weeks so hopefully we will have a light bulb moment before then
Thanks for all your responses!